To be or not to be...

Is honesty always the best policy? What if it hurts the other person, or do we even care anymore?Have we become so accustom to hurting another by our words, thoughts and actions that we don't bother to take into account anyone else's feelings but our own? Why is it so hard to do? Why do we allow people to hurt us over and over and think that it is totally acceptable when in reality it is totally unacceptable in every element of the word. Is it so hard just to be honest about things? I am no better than the next at this point, I have been honest and it has gotten me nowhere but on the same token I have been dishonest and it has not done anything good or bad. So, where do we draw the line on what should be said and what should be kept a secret in silence in our own minds. I know the things I want in life and I don't usually have a problem expressing them to people or do I? I am finding as I get older that the things that I thought were "acceptable" in my early/late 20's are not longer things that I am going to allow in my life, ex: The term casual gets thrown out so much in you're early years but when you hit you're 30's is anything really causal anymore? We should and I say should loosely know what we want from our carer, partners and friends, but how many of us actually do? I am not a fan of casual mainly because I lived that way through most of my 20's and small portion of my early 30's. I know what I want and I will not be willing to accept less from someone else. Not just in relationships but friendships as well. I have let go of a lot of people over the past 2 years who I at one point or another had considered to be a big part of my life. Some of those people were let go due to me growing up and getting older, figuring what I want in life and going after it and those people staying the same as they were when I first met them. I have had friendships that had died off and I thought would never be rebuilt come full circle and start over again in a totally new light mainly due to distance, time and maturity. But where is the fine line crossed of what do we really want in life? Are we willing to accept people exactly how they are or are we trying to change them to make them something that we want them to be? I have always been a fan of "either love someone and accept them for who they are flaws and all or don't accept them at all". It's all a juggling act in life and seeing what you can handle and what you are willing to accept or just let go.

We spend so much time looking back at things that have not worked out in the past that sometimes we are missing what is here right now, the moments that can pass us by while we are looking at the door that has been shut in the past. People make choices, they move on and some of those choices we may not agree with but in the end they are not ours to make. There is so much out there to experience that why are we not doing more of it? Questions that I am asking myself everyday.